Think carefully before making decisions after reading this...
Many women often prefer to marry men who are financially successful.
For them, the ideal husband is one who has a stable job, a car, and a house.
However, they fail to understand that very few accomplished young men are open to marriage.
They overlook the risks associated with marrying a man whose achievements they haven't contributed to.
You may just want to enjoy the luxuries without considering the implications. It's unfortunate!
Here are the risks of marrying already established men:
1. They’re unlikely to change for anyone. If he drinks, he will continue to drink. If he has a history of infidelity, he’ll likely keep up those habits; marriage won’t change his comfort zone.
2. Your influence over his possessions will be minimal. When a successful man marries you, he may view you more as an asset than an equal partner. You'll just be another item in his collection.
Many young women end up being treated like objects because they’re drawn to wealth. He may have used his money to attract you, and with that, he might assume he can dictate how you should feel and behave.
3. You might settle for less.
Have you ever heard someone say it's better to cry in a luxury vehicle than to be happy on a bicycle? That’s the mindset of women who appear to live well but may be suffering internally.
They may seem fine outwardly, but internally, they may experience anxiety and despair. They remain stuck in unhappy marriages because leaving could mean losing their material comforts.
4. Your efforts might go unnoticed.
You could put in the effort to strengthen your relationship, but the reality is, many facets of his life that needed fixing were addressed before you entered the picture.
5. You won’t demand his attention; you'll have to earn it.
He may or may not prioritize spending time with you. You may yearn for quality moments together, but he'll only give you time if he sees a genuine reason to do so.
6. He may have low sexual desire.
You might face challenges in fulfilling intimate moments, especially if you have a strong libido. If you’re set on marrying a wealthy man, this might be a recurring struggle over time.
7. You’ll have competition.
When other women detect his wealth, they’ll gravitate toward him. You’ll need to compete with younger, more attractive women for his attention, even if they haven’t met him yet.
8. Insecurity will be prevalent.
Insecurities will inevitably arise during disputes. If he feels pushed, you may be left with an ultimatum—to stay or go—because you wouldn’t want to face poverty again.
9. Many successful men don’t stay married.
They often don’t prioritize their relationships, and as long as they maintain their wealth, the dynamics will be superficial. You might receive material gifts as apologies instead of genuine affection.
10. They may struggle to admit fault.
Hearing a sincere “I’m sorry” might be rare; they might not even feel remorse. This is often due to the belief that as long as you’re with him for his wealth, your commitment is based on materialism.
Consider marrying a man who is still on his journey of self-improvement—someone sensible and grounded.
Seek a vision-driven man. When you build a life together, the likelihood of separation is reduced.
Find a committed partner who is working to establish himself, particularly a Christian man who loves you even in his humble beginnings.
Remember, the grass isn’t always greener elsewhere; every thriving lawn has a diligent gardener committed to nurturing it. So invest your time, effort, and wisdom in choosing your future partner, as a lifetime is too long to spend in discontent.
Note: This post is not implying that all established men are the same; rather, approach with caution when it comes to wealthy individuals, as they often attract many admirers.
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